Month: March 2017

Never Be Afraid to Share Your Heart

In this life, I have learned that the ‘fear voice’ is not one to listen to when it comes to matters of the heart. Rather, it’s intuition, your inner spirit guide that can hold you up. It will show you the desires of your heart. If you trust in it, and arrive with pure intention, you are unbreakable. Speaking from my own experiences, I’ve held back on showing love to people from my past and present, all because I was afraid of what their reaction would be. Would they shut me down? Would they tell me I’m wrong? Would they respond at all? These questions are the fear. And by shutting these down, I clear all the blocks and listen to what my spirit is calling me to do. If your intention is to get a response at all, then you have to seriously think about your real intention. When you let the universe guide you to a calling, you may or may not receive the response you were looking for, but you will find the one …

Running Toward the Light (Part One)

The continuation of When Sex Becomes Validation.  Wild thing…let me stand in your light, show me what it’s like to be free. I roll my neck and close my eyes. Liberation sounds like you. * * * The concert was lovely. Magical, even. I had never listened to that band before but I knew any band that David loved, I would love too. It had been a long day of adventure in San Francisco. Day two crossed off the list. Night two was next. David knew I wanted to be bougie and take an Uber back to our temporary home, but he knew how to save a coin. We arrived at the bus stop. “Think about all the money you’ll save,” he says. I’m down to take the bus. I’m down to take it with him. And while I had just gotten promoted to Senior Account Executive with a salary increase and Christmas bonus, I chose to save that coin, only because it’s easier to do with David. The night before was exhilarating, but I played this game before. …

Winter as a Time of Healing

I hide away, holding myself close as my inner guide whispers softly, “Everything is going to be alright.” I stroke my left forearm with my right hand, up and down until my chest reduces to a steady drumbeat. I throw my hands up in the air, fall to my knees and say, “I surrender.” I surrender to the pain in that moment because it has a job to do. It has an occupation, a resume, a portfolio, an agenda. A briefcase, even. It came with a purpose. And I allow it to fulfill their duty. I allow myself to be audited, to mark down the notes of what is going on right now in this moment so it can be handled. I sit still for a moment to cry and as I finish crying, I smile. I smile because I know that while I purge the grainy, muddy goop that comes from the bellows beneath me—spilling out on to the floor—I know this also means a new era is coming. A fresh start, a stronger …

March Book Club Pick: Difficult Women by Roxane Gay

Hello babes! I am excited to announce the launch of the Queer Spinster Book Club! Dedicated to celebrating queer authors, feminists, people of color, and marginalized communities around the world, this is a community for book lovers who are searching for more groundbreaking work to add to their reading list. March 2017 QS Book Club Pick Officially launching today, our March 2017 Book Club pick is Difficult Women by Roxane Gay (author of Bad Feminist and An Untamed State)! Facebook Live Discussion On Tuesday, March 28 at 9PM EST, Queer Spinster will host its first ever Facebook Live as we discuss the book Difficult Women. Follow the Queer Spinster Facebook page here. Sign-Up & Giveaway When you sign up to take part in this month’s hot read, you will be automatically entered for a chance to win a free copy of the book! I will also send updates on next QS Book Club picks and Facebook Live events. SIGN UP HERE More on Difficult Women Synopsis Award-winning author and powerhouse talent Roxane Gay burst onto the scene with …

Stop Questioning How Much of a Bad Bitch You Are (Really Though)

Questioning your worth sounds like a drag, right? If you ever hear a friend say something like, “Well why does this person like me? What do they see in me?” the first thing you do as a good friend is say, “You’re fucking amazing, that’s why!” I am that friend. My friends are friend. My family is that friend. But for most of my life, I struggled with trying to be that friend to myself. I would always question why a guy I liked would be into me and then subconsciously ruin any chances for something beyond the second (sometimes first) date. “Wow, really? You think I’m beautiful??? STOPPPP!” “Oh come on, you think I’m funny? I’m honestly not like a comedian or anything, like I don’t know how to write jokes very well.” “Oh wow, you read my blog? That’s so weird, no one reads it. You think I’m a good writer? That’s so wild, dude!” Or even to a boss: “Aw really??? I’m doing a good job?? You want me to keep up the …